Wednesday Love: Goodbye Dear Steve

June 30, 2010

Countless times now I’ve sat down to write this but I just can’t seem to find the right words.  I give up.  Whatever words come flying out will have to do.

After a year-long struggle with ALS,  my brother-in-law Steve passed away on Monday afternoon.  In the end he was bathed in love, surrounded by those who had been closest in his struggle.  It was a peaceful, gentle passing into whatever awaits as we leave this world.  This end came sooner than any of us had expected but there is comfort in knowing that his suffering is over.

Standing by his side, gently loving him through this passage, is the last place I would’ve once expected to end up.  I’ve written before about our relationship, about how our hatred was healed by the redeeming power of love. In the end, it’s all about the love.  And there was plenty.

I can’t think of anything else to add right now, even though there’s so much more.

We’re crying.  We’re laughing.  We’re remembering.  We’re working on the details of what to do next.  But mostly we’re just missing him.

Central Florida Musician Steve Bove Had a Rock and Roll Heart

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Juliet June 30, 2010 at 8:16 pm

Oh Karen, I am so sorry for you and Ralph. I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts.

Memoria June 30, 2010 at 8:43 pm

I send my sincerest condolences to you, your husband, and the rest of your family. May he rest in peace.

Robin June 30, 2010 at 9:43 pm

Karen thank you for sharing these experiences with us. Rick and I wish the very best for you and Ralph, Ralph Sr, Marla and all of your family. It’s inspiring to hear the story of your compassion and the healing it has brought. The sadness of your loss and the hope in your message are like the little waves that spread out when a tiny pebble is thrown into a pond. I know you will take care.

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